FAQ

Why won’t the victim just leave the relationship?

This can be difficult to understand. The victim may not feel emotionally strong enough to leave, they may feel isolated and alone, or perhaps the abuse is not constant so they view the abuser as wanting to change his/her behavior. Sometimes the victim grew up witnessing violence so they may feel that some form of abuse is ‘normal’ in a relationship. The victim may be financially dependent on the abuser and fear homelessness if they leave. If the victim has children, they may have been threatened with the loss of the children, or perhaps the abuser has threatened to hurt or kill the victim or their family and friends.  If this is the case, the victim might feel they are sacrificing themselves in order to save/protect those that they love from violence. When a victim leaves an abusive relationship, they are at the greatest risk of violence or even homicide. If a past attempt to leave has failed, the victim will most likely be fearful of trying to leave again. The best way to help a friend or family member who is a victim of abuse is to be caring and supportive. Make sure they know that you are there to listen. In the meantime, be proactive and learn about the resources that are available in the victim’s community.

I’m a victim of stalking, what should I do?

Experts suggest that victims send the stalker/harasser a written warning, informing them that the contact is unwanted and ask the perpetrator to cease and desist further communication of any kind. Then, no matter what their response is, under no circumstances should the victim continue to engage the stalker in any form of communication. Victims should save copies of all communication with the stalker in both electronic and hard copy format. It is imperative to document the evidence, along with specific dates and times. If the harassment continues, the victim should file a report with local law enforcement or contact the local prosecutor’s office to see what charges can be pursued. The victim should not agree to meet the perpetrator under any circumstances.

Can you help support the efforts of my organization?

All requests of this nature must be accompanied by supporting evidence to enable us to determine if we can be of assistance. Please provide (via e-mail) a prepared packet of evidence, case history and the cause for action. At this time we do not have the available resources to perform research for outside organizations, so any requests of this nature must include all relevant documentation.

What is Domestic Violence Reform, and how did it begin?

The goal of the domestic violence reform movement is to ensure that all domestic violence victims are afforded equal protections and services regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, age, or occupation. Domestic Violence victim resources and public policy must address the needs of all victims.
The movement began in July of 2009 when SIA Founder Alexis A. Moore spoke to White House Advisor on Violence Against Women, Sarah Lynn Rosenthal. Ms. Rosenthal was not aware of the realities faced by victims of violence and was particularly unaware that domestic violence and stalking victims were being left behind.

Survivors In Action proceeded to launch a campaign with an online petition that had 10,000 signatures in less than six months. The movement continues to grow and has now reached an international audience.

Is Survivors In Action affiliated with the Government?

Survivors In Action is not affiliated with any Government agency or entity.